Seriously? For some reason I instantly got extremely Ill last night, just outta nowhere. Complete exhaustion, high fever, bam! On my ass just like that. My husband whom I share a car with needed a ride home, even though I told him how I felt and asked if he could call my dad or something, he didn’t. Just kept calling me!? Well, I called my dad for him. My eleven year old put all the kids in their jammies for me and put them to bed, even though she had more homework to do. It was bad. Then when he got home he didn’t even check on me until he was all comfortable, changed, etc. What gives?! Wait, I have more whining to do.
The next day, he had “an hour” meeting for work. Usually it’s his day off, but I agree work is priority. He said he’d be back after leaving at 9 or so. I’m still in bed, trying to feel better. He calls on his way home at 1:15 asking if I wanna workout taking him to therapy or getting the kids home early so he could go. Wha?! Yes, I’m feeling sorry for myself, so what. I needed help today, but felt all alone. I got exasporated with the phone conversation and told him I had to go. He came home talking on the phone, 20 mins later came in to check on me ( thanks a lot) I asked for help with something to eat, and he’s like ok but can I tell you about work first? Oh, ok. An hour later he’s still talking, I’m just hungry, weak, and sad. He even told me how he ate donuts this AM and work ordered from a steakhouse for lunch. Thanks dude.
I finally used my anger to fuel me and get up and make myself a hot cocoa- what a jerk. I’m such a spoiled brat.
Serious, seriously – how much do we really consider our western lifestyle. Work is the center, relationships and slow time is always something in the way.
At what point are we chasing crap we neither need nor want. Just being animals and hunting to hunt, no philosophy behind it.
Philosophy is just the books, just something to debate.
Serious, seriously – consider spending less, working less, putting a price on love and attention. In a marriage, there is no such thing as *too much* quality time or together. If you feel that you have to go to work to escape your spouse, you are doing it wrong. Maybe it takes a village to do more than raise the kids, where are the grandparents, where are the neighbors?
Seriously – the grandparents, 10 miles away, are too busy working as well. Your feelings are my thoughts exactly, always have been. For too long our kids are being raised by absent working parents, and married to absent working spouses. Our community is empty, no longer there to support one another. Sad. It cannot be done alone…. I’m pretty sure neighbors are self consumed in their incomes as well.
I quote Amber: “Your feelings are my thoughts exactly, always have been. For too long our kids are being raised by absent working parents, and married to absent working spouses.”
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Let’s be more precise here. It isn’t THOUGHTS, it is EXPERIENCE.
And the experience of it has been handed down throughout the ages, and a college professor of humanity for 40 years says the story is old and one we seem destined to repeat.
cite: http://www.jungland.ru/Library/CampMoye.htm
We have no language for this mess and evolution of technology we created. We can fly anywhere, watch live video, tweet one voice to the world, work from home, drive any time to any place, purchase anything with common paper. Yet, we have no common language to discuss the problems. Movies and art are not impacting people, there is no common story that everyone can relate to – people are too distracted by the common change.
It is a period of change, the old is gone, but the new has not yet emerged. Recognizing that, through experience, is what should motivate you to start raising your grandkids with a new knowledge of what’s really gong on.
Joseph Campbell: *** And what it will have to deal with will be exactly what all myths have dealt with — the maturation of the individual, from dependency through adulthood, through maturity, and then to the exit; and then how to relate to this society and how to relate this society to the world of nature and the cosmos. That’s what the myths have all talked about, and what this one’s got to talk about. But the society that it’s got to talk about is the society of the planet. And until that gets going, you don’t have anything. ***